Don’t Get Distracted By a Husband Who Isn’t Yours

Posted: May 4, 2014 in Uncategorized
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There has been several times I have read posts written by my friends on facebook lamenting the days they are counting down till their husband returns from a trip of some sort. I try and gloss over them and let them slide so quickly like water off a ducks back, but yesterday one got to me. People were commenting their support for her bravery and encouraging her that she will make it.

I actually had to text my accountability partner and tell her I was not going to be on facebook for the rest of the day because I had almost hit enter after typing that at least she gets to count the days. I felt lost and overwhelmed at the fact that I don’t get to count the days. Yes it’s hard when your husband is away and you are doing his job in your family for a time, but for those friends there is a time when he will return and they will have relief from the extra responsibilities and pressures.

It can make you feel very angry, frustrated and resentful when for you there is no end. There is no magical number that decreases, if anything the number just increases from the day you had to take all that on.

I wallowed in my self pity for a while, then I started thinking about people who had less than I. I remembered that I am a mom who works very hard to instill in my children an attitude of gratefulness and thankfulness. There are so many, many others in this world that have far less than we do and have far greater struggles.

Yes, I do think it’s ok to feel sad, grieve and mourn, but you can’t stay there. You especially can not stay in a place where you become bitter and resentful of what others have – that’s called jealousy and it will destroy you. It will consume you to think about what others have that you don’t. It will get you nowhere, fast.

Focus on what you do have: do you have kids, do you have a home, do you have food, do you have clothing, do you have friends, do you have family, do you have freedom to make your life what you want it to be?

Focus on what you have, what your goals are and how to use what you have to build to where you want to go. We all have struggles, fears and insecurities. Life has it’s ups and downs. Do what you can do. Don’t be distracted by what someone has – even if it’s a husband. Husbands come with their own problems too 🙂

Keep moving forward one step at a time.


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