Risk Taking is Attractive

Posted: February 25, 2015 in Uncategorized
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I am not a man. I don’t claim to know the inner workings of a mans mind, but I was married to one and I have been around a lot of them. I know that it is common for men to fear failure. I recently watched Russell Brands thoughts on porn and was impressed with his research and conclusions. One thing he noted, was that the impact of soft core pornography has produced men who look at women more than they interact with them. I think this fear of failure has a tie into that. Porn won’t reject you – it’s no risk. Flesh and blood women in real life, can turn you down or even humiliate you – high risk.

Recently I was on vacation and engaged in a casual non-flirting conversation with a man. I excused my self and began to walk away and he called to me in front of others and said, “your beautiful.” I blushed, said thank you and continued on. I was so struck though by his respectful advance and his willingness to look like a complete and utter fool, that the next time I saw him I made sure he had my direct attention for quite some time.

Later, he asked me why I had given him that time and I told him specifically it was because of what he said and the fact that he took a risk for me. I don’t know if it is a result of our porn saturated world, but I don’t find many men willing to put themselves out there like that. Even if I am not interested in the person romantically, a risk taker will gain my respect.  Be sure to note that he was respectful in his approach. Guys yelling sexually provocative things are girls are not risk takers, they are other words I will not write here.

I’m not looking for a relationship right now but it’s nice to be noticed and it’s nice to know that men do actually exist who are respectful and who are risk takers.


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